How to Be in Pain

Let yourself hurt.

Explore it, know it, come to understand it, as if your pain was a soul unto itself.

Then sit softly with it, as would a friend. Offer no advice, only the hope that comes from companionship. For you are in pain, but you are not pain itself. Pain is Other.

The existence of you, in fact, offers hope to the creature called Pain.

Sit, breathe, and perceive the world with two minds — yours, and that of hurt. Distinguish both. Understand them separately.

Imagine you are a spirit guide to the soul of pain inside you. Speak softly, but urgently. Keep speaking to your pain, as you would hope your spirit guide would keep reaching out to you.

Sit with your pain and keep speaking.


4 thoughts on “How to Be in Pain

  1. As someone who suffers from daily chronic pain I can totally relate to this post. Sometimes it’s very hard to separate the pain from myself because it seeps into all areas of my life. Pain can eat away at my life and spiritual center, but only if I let it. Many Blessings on Your Journey )O(

    1. Thank you and bless you — I really feel for you. For me, being disabled means remembering to be kind to myself, and to accept my limitations without feeling so limited. But I don’t think that we need to be so stoic as to accept pain without letting it bother us, so I think it is right to live in a way that honours your pain and takes as good care of yourself as possible.

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